If you’re like me and you read a bunch of Christian girl blogs you’ll know that many – MANY – of these blogs talk about modesty and like to focus on the do’s of don’ts of what to wear. Although I love a practical approach and some of their tips are really helpful, I would like to point out that this is not another one of those articles. Instead of telling you how long your skirt should be – I’d like to explain WHY.
If you read last week’s article; Does God think you’re beautiful? you’ll know that beauty is the essence of femininity and that women were created to be beautiful both inside and out. Perhaps beauty and modesty seems a little contradicting to you. Can you be called to resemble God’s beauty to the world and hide it at the same time? I happen to think this is such a major misconception of what modesty is.
So let’s talk about it.
In Christian circles we like reminding each other that beauty is not found in outward things like hairstyles and jewelry, but in having a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:3-4).
Another popular verse is Proverbs 31:30 which describe beauty as vain, suggesting a woman should rather fear the Lord.
Let me be clear; I’m not about to disagree with Scripture – true beauty is found in our hearts.
I am, however, going to be honest with you. The way these Scriptures have been emphasized; has left me feeling guilty. It has filled me with shame for having a desire to be physically beautiful. I happen to think God gave us these Scriptures to encourage and free us and not to fill us with guilt and shame.
So what is His idea of beauty?
I realize that I haven’t written in three weeks. If you follow me on Instagram you’ll know that I used my birthday as an excuse, but the real reason you haven’t heard from me is because I was waiting on God. I was waiting on Him for personal breakthrough, as well as a way to apply what He’s teaching me to something I can share with you.
At some point in your Christian walk you’re probably going to be confronted with waiting too. I'd like to address two crucial facets to waiting on God.
First is waiting to hear His voice.
Second is waiting for Him to come through.
Both are things I’ve struggled with. So whether you’re waiting to hear His voice; or waiting for an outcome; this is for you.
Pretty much my entire Christian walk, God has been teaching me to trust Him more. Today I am convinced this is something every Christian continually grows in. Whether you’re in a season of waiting or doing; God is most likely stretching your faith. Even in seasons of resting and reflecting God gives you reasons to trust Him and prepares you for what’s to come.
These 5 things you need to know about faith are what God has revealed to me in the last few weeks. I can’t share them with you without admitting that I’ve been extremely humbled while learning them. The only reason I can step out in faith is because of Holy Spirit working in me. These last few weeks have been exactly that.
This is what I’ve learnt:
These last few weeks have been all about love. You know when God's trying to tell you something and you run into it everywhere you go? Well that is pretty much what these last weeks were like for me.
This weekend I attended the first Women of Worth Conference in Bloemfontein. When one of the speakers, Dr Ntabeleng Rammile, referred to the commandment to love in Matthew 22:36-40, it didn’t even surprise me. This verse showed up in so many conversations I had over the last week.
When one of the Pharisees asked Jesus what the most important commandment was, He instructed us to love. According to Jesus love is most important thing in life. Love God. Love yourself and love others.
About the blog
Queen in Gold is a blog for the feminine heart. I hope to inspire other women to stand up in their God-given identity.
My name is Riani.
I love flowers, board games, arty markets, food, dancing, music and spring....