A little bit more than a year ago an elderly man approached me in a grocery store: “Why don’t you have a boyfriend?”
I still don’t know how a random stranger could tell that I was single just by looking at me. What could possibly be the physical evidence for having a boyfriend?
I can’t remember whether or not I answered him, but I do remember asking myself that question on a regular basis during that time. I remember thinking: “I wish I knew.”
If you can identify with my grocery store moment in any way; if singleness is something you’ve prayed and moaned and cried about - this is probably for you. For the rest of you; please take caution when asking single people about their relationship status...
High school was probably some of the best and worst years of my life. It was during those 5 years I discovered I didn’t fit into the crowd (most of us don’t), leading to a very confusing search to find the true me. In between it all I tried to figure out how my childhood faith and relationship with Jesus would look like into adulthood.
Clearly, following Jesus called me to be different; so I took a year or two of not being too serious about Him - by grace I realized how unfulfilling that would be. It was in high school I chose to follow Jesus with everything – no matter what. Sadly, I also saw many walk away, choosing to follow the world instead.
If I could do it again – there are a few things I’d do different. While listing them today, I realized how applicable they still are. Perhaps this is true for you too.
I realize that I haven’t written in three weeks. If you follow me on Instagram you’ll know that I used my birthday as an excuse, but the real reason you haven’t heard from me is because I was waiting on God. I was waiting on Him for personal breakthrough, as well as a way to apply what He’s teaching me to something I can share with you.
At some point in your Christian walk you’re probably going to be confronted with waiting too. I'd like to address two crucial facets to waiting on God.
First is waiting to hear His voice.
Second is waiting for Him to come through.
Both are things I’ve struggled with. So whether you’re waiting to hear His voice; or waiting for an outcome; this is for you.
Here’s a little reflection of what singleness has taught me.
I’d never regret my last six years of singleness, instead I grant it as extremely precious.
God used this little metaphor-story to show me what it really means to be single. This story helped me to embrace my current season. I hope that it will do the same for you...
How most single girls feel
There was this girl on a train station. She was waiting for the train to come, but seemed to wait for a really long time. People would show up on the station, get on a train and off they go. For her, this was not the case. When a train would enter the station, she would jump up and be ready to go, only to watch the train pass straight trough without even stopping.
About the blog
Queen in Gold is a blog for the feminine heart. I hope to inspire other women to stand up in their God-given identity.
My name is Riani.
I love flowers, board games, arty markets, food, dancing, music and spring....