Most of you probably know at least one person who met their spouse at about the same time they stopped looking for someone and started enjoying their singleness. If you are single you’ll usually get reminded of these love stories right after expressing your frustration with still being on your own.
As true as their stories might be, it simply doesn’t work like that for all of us. Learning to be content is usually one of God’s purposes for singleness, but being content is not a box you can tick in order to get married. Marriage is not a prize you get for being “content enough” on your own.
Learning to be content is an important part of life and not just singleness. We learn to find contentment in Christ throughout our lives and for many of us; this journey starts with being single.
If you’re like me and you read a bunch of Christian girl blogs you’ll know that many – MANY – of these blogs talk about modesty and like to focus on the do’s of don’ts of what to wear. Although I love a practical approach and some of their tips are really helpful, I would like to point out that this is not another one of those articles. Instead of telling you how long your skirt should be – I’d like to explain WHY.
If you read last week’s article; Does God think you’re beautiful? you’ll know that beauty is the essence of femininity and that women were created to be beautiful both inside and out. Perhaps beauty and modesty seems a little contradicting to you. Can you be called to resemble God’s beauty to the world and hide it at the same time? I happen to think this is such a major misconception of what modesty is.
So let’s talk about it.
This is not your typical church-girl topic, but that’s exactly the problem. I’ve been meaning to write this ages ago, but honestly; I was a little afraid. Many of you know that I myself am an unmarried Christian girl – so what qualifies me to write this article? Plenty of grace: grace, grace, grace.... And that’s about it.
So why write it now? I’ve seen too many young people fall for lies about sex. I honestly believe the reason many people fall into sexual sin is because it’s not something we talk about openly and honestly enough. When I started Queen in Gold the dream was to answer questions everyone asks, but no one seems to answer. It’s time to start sharing the truth again, friends.
At the very core of every girl’s heart is the desire to be fought for and pursued. This is the very reason little girls dream about being princesses. Apart from being able to twirl around in a beautiful dress, princesses are beautiful, worthy and adored. This is acknowledged by a prince who is willing to fight a fire-breathing dragon, in order to rescue her on his white horse. And how could any fairytale be complete without the lovely young couple living happily ever after?
Many women have given up on this dream along the way. Most of us have met a decent man and hoped he’d make a good prince, only to watch him run at the first sign of the dragon. Some of us have attempted to slay the dragon ourselves, in order to make the quest for our hearts a little bit more presentable. Some of us have settled for less than the prince we hoped for. Most of us have compromised the dream.
I’ve been passionate about romance since I can remember. Honestly, I was sure that my first crush was the “boy” I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Naturally, this perspective caused me to get my heart broken a number of times. God miraculously used it to introduce me to the concept of Jesus being my first Love. So that’s great – but it does not solve the dilemma of finding a second love or how to navigate your way through such relations in a God-honoring way.
So I set off on a quest to read every book, watch every video and apply every idea to “Christian dating” Dating, courtship, friendship – call it what you like. I have come to the conclusion that there is absolutely no “one-size-fits-all” recipe on how to find your second love and have a Godly relationship.
About the blog
Queen in Gold is a blog for the feminine heart. I hope to inspire other women to stand up in their God-given identity.
My name is Riani.
I love flowers, board games, arty markets, food, dancing, music and spring....